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7 Great Memoirs I've Read

Since my elementary years, I’ve been as much a fan of nonfiction books as fiction—perhaps even more so. Even as a child, I read biographies by the armload. Back in the 70’s, a memoir was just a specialized autobiography. But in the late 20th century, memoir moved up from subcategory to full-fledged genre. While autobiography attempts to be a cumulative life story from birth to point of publication, memoir never tries to tell every detail of a person’s history. Instead, it’s more narrow, more focused, and tells its story for a particular reason.

I had twice as many memoirs to share when I began this piece, but the post was getting way too long so I cut my list down by half. (In an upcoming newsletter, I’ll include the names of the ones that didn’t make this post.) Left here, though, are brief reviews of seven memoirs that I found riveting and even transformative. They are in alphabetical order by author’s name.

Thin Places, by Mary E. DeMuth, Zondervan, 2010.

I was interested in Celtic theology at the time I read this one, so the title grabbed my attention. DeMuth explains in the introduction to her memoir, “The Celts define a thin place as a place where heaven and the physical world collide, one of those serendipitous territories where eternity and the mundane meet. Thin describes the membrane between the two worlds, like a place of vellum, where we see a holy glimpse of the eternal—not in digital clarity, but clear enough to discern what lies beyond.”  What makes DeMuth’s recollection of thin places unique, is the thick and heavy circumstances surrounding her glimpses of the Kingdom. She offers not lovely incidents of good fortune and joy, but painful realities of abandonment and abuse, seeing in many of the horrors of her childhood, the infinite grace of God. I was fascinated by her story, by her writing, and mostly by her testimony which proclaims the presence of God’s Kingdom right here in this often messy and ungodly world.

The Liars' Club: A Memoir, by Mary Karr, Penguin Books, 2005 (first published in 1995);
Lit by Mary Karr, HarperTorch, 2009.

I actually read these two in reverse order; Having done that, I’d definitely recommend starting with The Liar’s Club, a memoir about Karr’s childhood, and then pick up Cherry about her teen years. (I’ve not read Cherry yet but imagine it is as gripping as the other two.)  And only then finishing out the trilogy with Lit. Anyway, in The Liar’s Club, Mary and her sister Lecia squeeze joy out of despair, raised as they are by a psychotic mother and an alcoholic father. Mary’s perspective favors her father, pities her mother, and empathizes with Lecia. In Lit, we find a grown-up Mary who has overcome many obstacles, but is still plagued by results from the inequity of her earliest days. Both books are page turners that rival the best of fiction. Karr is considered a master of the memoir form; these two works certainly support that designation. (In fact, her latest book, The Art of Memoir, is next up in my Audible queue.) Here’s just one example from The Liars Club of her writing style which is both picturesque and yet somehow also unpretentious.

By dusk, we were on the spaghetti freeways looking for Highway 73 home, and I kept cutting my eyes between my window, where the new glass skyscrapers going up just slid past, and the small rearview mirror, where Mother’s eyes were still eerily blank. Nothing showed in those eyes but the road’s white dashed lines which seemed to be flying off the road and into the darkest part of her pupils, where they disappeared like knives.
The Liar’s Club ©2005 edition, Penguin Books, page 56.

Amazing right? So very rich!

The Color of Water: A Black Man's Tribute to His White Mother, by James McBride, Riverhead Trade, 1997.

Probably my favorite memoir of all time for a number of reasons, not the least of which is that when I emailed the author to praise the book, he responded within 24 hours with humility and warmth. Additionally, McBride’s mother is a seriously white chick (I mean Orthodox Jewish White) from the South and his father is an African American Baptist from Harlem. How could you not be drawn into that? McBride’s mother who he calls “Mommy,” is determined, resilient, and committed despite obvious and not so obvious threats to her strong spirit. McBride tells about a conversation he has with Mommy about the color of God’s skin that suggests the origin of his mother’s fount of hope.

“Oh boy . . . God’s not black. He’s not white. He’s a spirit.”
"What’s a spirit?”
“A spirit’s a spirit.”
“What color is God’s spirit?”
“It doesn’t have a color,” she said. “God is the color of water. Water doesn’t have a color.”

This theology, that God’s spirit can reside in vessels that differ widely in form and hue, surely helped to sustain Ruth McBride Jordan throughout the adventure of her complicated life. McBride’s tribute to his beloved mother is extraordinary. I loved it.

Breaking Night: A Memoir of Forgiveness, Survival, and My Journey from Homeless to Harvard, by Liz Murray, Hyperion, 2010.

I read this treasure as I was learning about homelessness and poverty in my region. I was captivated, and I learned so much about what can cause homelessness and what it might take to overcome it. Liz Murray and her sister Lisa were raised by coke addict parents whose priorities leaned more towards their next scam than the needs of their children. Somehow, despite unfathomable odds, Liz realizes that education is the answer to a better life. As a high school student, Liz couch surfed her way out of street life, often retreating to apartment stairwells to do her homework when the activities inside became too distracting (or, ya know, llegal). Her unlikely escape from poverty and addiction left me slack jawed in its poignancy. Even as I write this review, I’m shaking my head in disbelief at all Liz Murray faced. Hers is an incredible story of survival.

The Glass Castle, by Jeannette Walls, Scribner, 2006.

Yet another story of a girl who had a pathetic childhood who grows up to be a bestselling author. (Despite my own more or less idyllic childhood, I seem to be drawn to these types of memoirs.) Mary DeMuth of Thin Places suffered sexual abuse; Mary Karr’s childhood was drenched in alcohol and drugs; and Jeannette Walls’ was plagued by chronic poverty and astounding parental negligence. After a quick intro section, The Glass Castle hurls readers right into the appalling conditions of the author’s childhood. Walls is hardly old enough to be potty trained, much less cooking for herself, when her pink tutu catches fire at the stove, and she is immediately engulfed in flames. She is taken immediately to the hospital where she remains for a full six weeks. If only that were the worst of her story. Not so. She and her siblings face persistent hunger and neglect to the point of abandonment until one by one they escape to improve their lives. It’s a story that will, at the very least, keep you from complaining about your own daily inconveniences for a very long time.

Night, by Elie Wiesel, McMillian 2012.

Published originally in 1955, this brief volume took me just an afternoon to read, but will stay with me forever. Elie Wiesel’s personal account of his holocaust experience presents a picture of radical extremes. In the German oppressors, we see humanity at its most vile; in Wiesel’s poignant retelling of loss and grief, of torment endured and faith restored, we see humanity at its most vulnerable. While it won’t take you a long time to read Night, if you are like me, you’ll need a good bit of time to process the content. Don’t shortchange yourself. This one is worth the emotional investment it exacts from readers. A singular work, unparalleled in its genre.

 

What about you? Do you enjoy reading memoir? Tell me what your favorite is below.

1972 chrysler town and country

Chrysler Crisis Avoided

I was seven, so my sister was nine, and my brother was only three. As far as we knew, it was both brand new (it wasn't) and as cool as Adam West’s Batmobile.

Ours was pale blue so we called it "Old Blue." My brother drove it to high school in the late 80's.

For starters, our other car—a 1966 Dodge Dart station wagon—was much smaller than the new one. Our parents had gotten the Dodge when I was a baby. I was prone to car-sickness during my early years; the doctors informed my parents that my ailment was likely due to my becoming overheated. Our family took some really long car trips back then—in the summer and then again at Christmas. So naturally, the folks went out and bought me my own car: one with built-in air conditioning. (An aside: I think we can all agree that this is early evidence that they love me best. Just saying . . . .)

But back to our new-to-us 1972 Chrysler Town and Country wagon. That car had all kinds of nifty features. Sure it had air conditioning (pretty much standard issue by that time), but it also had a thoroughly modern, cutting-edge, stereo system. Yep.  We had, right there in our car’s rather extensive dash, a built-in 8-track tape player. (Go ahead; be jealous.) On trips, Mama always brought along all of our favorites: soundtracks from Oklahoma, The Sound of Music, Fiddler on the Roof, and the latest from Barry Manilow and The Carpenters. Oh yeah!

The Chrysler had these neat little compartments along the sides where you could stash all kinds of stuff. We called these hidey-holes “cubbies.” That is little ‘c’ cubbies (a critical point as you’ll soon learn).

And it was enormous. The front seat alone could handle three-fifths of our family when necessary and still leave room for our geriatric cocker spaniel. The back seat was so large that my two siblings could sit there together and never once make physical contact. The way-back was my seat; we’ll get to that. But first, The Cubby. The Cubby, a trench of sorts that filled the space between the back seat and the way-back was about a foot wide and 18 inches or so deep. Of course only one of us (at the time) could fit in there, but if you sat upright in The Cubby with your legs extended, leaning back on the upholstery, your head would be resting right against the car’s state-of-the-art stereo speaker. “O-o-o OHHHHHHH-kla-home-uh where the wind comes sweeping down the plain . . . .” Pure delight.

Usually, though, I climbed over The Cubby to get to the way-back—the seat at the rear of the vehicle that faced on-coming traffic. (Evidently, my car-sickness was on hiatus during those years.) Whenever we travelled, I took a pillow, my favorite doll (Redhead), and a paper sack full of books. I would snuggle down with a book in my hand and Redhead in the crook of my arm, and read and read and read.  Oh my goodness: it was wonderful.

In the eighties, we traded that car for a much smaller Pontiac Phoenix; I haven't thought much about the old Chrysler in a long time. Then this week, I posted a story that included that car. I wanted a picture to go along with the post, so I searched Google until I found one. Imagine my shock when my 2013 eyes beheld all those images of the 1972 Chrysler Town and Country. Yikes. The faux wooden panels that I thought had added such character to our green wagon . . . well . . . they didn’t. The door that opened to the way-back appeared overly large, awkward, and gangly. Simply put, the thing was a pea-green land barge decorated with tacky—nay gaudy—board-like siding. Embarrassingly hideous.

Picture only slightly edited . . . :)

Picture only slightly edited . . . 🙂

But then I found a shot of the interior (different color, same model). There are the cubby holes along the sides. The way-back:  roomy and ready for a reader. And look! The speakers right behind The Cubby. And suddenly it’s brand new, as beautiful as ever, and “It’s Yesterday Once More.”

“All my best memories come back clearly to me
Some can even make me cry, just like before
It's yesterday once more”
From "Yesterday Once More,"
by Richard Carpenter &
John Bettis 1973, The Carpenters, Now & Then.
holocaust book list

A Holocaust Remembrance Day Book List

It’s Holocaust Remembrance Day. Here are a few holocaust books I've read and loved in no particular order.

book thief

  • Book Thief, Markus Zusak. Classified as a young adult novel, this novel, narrated by Death, is compelling in its character development and plot twists. Excellent read.
  • milkweedSarah’s Key, Tatiana-de-Rosnay. Nothing could have prepared me for the end of this haunting story within a story. Haven’t seen the movie, but the book was phenomenal.
  • Milkweed, Jerry Spinelli. Spinelli, another young adult author, has worked his trademark storytelling magic in this story of a little boy living in a tragic time.
  • A Diary of a Young Girl, Anne Frank. This memoir introduced me to the holocaust through a child’s eyes when I was just a child myself.
  • The Hiding Place, Corrie ten Boom. I went to see this movie in the night70’s after I had read the book. The sacrifices made by the ten Boom family challenged me to be a better me.
  • A Boy in Striped Pajamas, John Boyne. This short young adult novel is by far the most shockingly tragic holocaust book I’ve ever read.
  • Night, Elie Wiesel. All the words I might have to describe this book would be inadequate. Read it. 
seuss books

Gratitude Week 3: Theodore Geisel aka Theo. LeSieg aka Dr. Seuss

 

It’s hard for me to pick a favorite. All of them cluster around number one, ordering themselves by publication rather than preference. Dr. Seussbooks are just that good: they all deserve first place.

As soon as my oldest was old enough to tell one book from another, she would reach for Mr. Brown Can Moo every time. As we read it to her, she bounced along to the rhythm, expectant and delighted. All three of my kids felt sorry for poor Hooper Humperdink and were not a little concerned about what they themselves might see on Mulberry Street. On their birthdays, we read Happy Birthday To You, and okay, we read it on my birthday too because really: who would want to miss out on the Official Katroo Birthday Bird saying:

“Shout loud at the top of your voice, ‘I AM I! ME! I am I! And I may not know why . . . But I know that I like it. Three cheers! I AM I!’”


But I guess I’d have to say The ABC Book is the Seuss book most indelibly impressed on my memory. Aunt Annie’s Alligator. Barber, Baby, Bubbles, & a Bumblebee. Ear, Egg, Elephant, Kitten, Kangaroo, Painting Pink Pajamas, and that lucky Rosy Robin Ross. (I wish I could ride a red rhinoceros.) Dr. Seuss’ ABC’s took me away to places where camels walked on ceilings, mice mumbled at midnight, and tired turtles climbed tuttle-tuttle trees; to lands where lazy lions licked lollipops, and young Yolanda Yorgenson yelled on the back of a yawning, yellow yak. When I climbed into Dr. Seuss’ ABC book, absolutely anything could happen.

Those early journeys into Seuss’ imaginary world prepared me for later travels of all kinds. I made maple sugar with Little Runner. I solved mysteries with Boxcar Children and solved relationship woes with Laura Ingalls Wilder. I’ve visited Cold Sassy Tree, Mitford, Hogwarts, the City of Emberand District 13. I also met Booker T. Washington, Harriet Tubman, Florence Nightingale, and Clara Barton. I experienced Gettysburg through Abraham Lincoln’s words, the Holocaust through the writings of Ellie Wiesel and Corrie Ten Boom. I learned about a different kind of darkness from Helen Keller, and how to deal with all these bad things happening to good people from Rabbi Kushner. And, as you can plainly see, it all started with a book that ended with a Zizzer Zazzer Zuzz.

Thanks Dr. Seuss. “There is no one alive who is you-er than you!” 

Library box

In Love with the Library

Published March 22, 2009

Yesterday, I spent a few hours with a library cat named Dewey. I was driving back from a conference—a five hour trip—and as I drove, I listened to the audio book, Dewey the Library Cat, by Vicki Myron. I'm a sap for a good animal story (see last week’s post); in addition to that, I absolutely love libraries. Dewey then seemed a perfect fit. Yet, after just a chapter or two, I found myself strangely envious of the foundling kitty. Why? Dewey got to live in a library. Sigh.

My mother took us to the public library when we were wee ones; my heart still races with remembered anticipation when I think back on those special days. All those books! Shelf upon shelf, row after row, one room then another. Heaven on earth.

Indeed, while some kids played princesses and others played pirates, I played librarian (well, when I wasn't playing student to my sister the teacher . . . but that’s another story). A few years ago, I wrote a story about a time when I took my library play to a new level. Enjoy.

Library in a Box
©July 2006 Aileen Mitchell Lawrimore

"Wow! That is so cool." I could not believe something so completely wonderful, had landed at our little house. After all, Daddy was a Baptist preacher, and Mother just worked part-time as a substitute teacher. Where did we get a treasure of this magnitude?

"You like it?" My parents beamed at the new sleeper sofa they had purchased for our family room.

"I love it! Do we get to keep it?" My 10 year old mind stirred with plans for our new addition.

"Well, of course we. . ." my mother turned to face me, and saw I was not looking at the sofa. She started backtracking. "We are going to keep the sofa, is that what you mean?"

Library BoxIt wasn't. Forget the sofa. I wanted the box. It was huge. It had walls. It had a floor, a ceiling. It was big enough for at least five kids. I could see it already. The circulation desk would be at the entrance to the box. I could draw shelves on the floor and use bookends to hold the books in place. I would track usage of books using note cards and I would assign each of my friends a library card. It would be perfect.

Mother could not refuse and I got to keep my cardboard library. To my surprise, the neighborhood children were not nearly as excited as I was about my library. Thus, circulation numbers remained manageable. The lack of community involvement didn't bother me too much though. It was my very own library and I loved it. And hey! It came with a sleeper sofa.

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